Reading club | get rid of the fog of psychological counseling: how should ordinary people treat psychological counseling

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Recently, we held a Book Club in onebrain cloud reading circle ——《 Mr. toad went to see a psychologist 》 In full swing , Our participant Xiao Yi had some experience in the book club , So I recorded some feelings in the reading club in the form of words , Now let's go and have a look ！

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What is psychological counseling ？

Are there any answers to the movies and TV series we have seen in those years “ What is psychological counseling ”？

if 《 Mr. toad went to see a psychologist 》 This book popularizes science to readers in a simple way “ What is psychological counseling ”, At present, the description of psychological counseling in many film and television works breaks the audience's understanding gap of psychological counseling , It also further guides the audience to have cognitive bias towards psychological counseling .

For example, the film starring Xu Zheng and Karen Mok 《 hypnotist 》, The audience will have unrealistic expectations for the efficacy of hypnosis, a special psychotherapy .

Another example is the recent hit TV series starring Yang Zi 《 Female psychologist 》, As a psychological counselor, the heroine is excessively involved in the private life of patients , Want to be a friend of the patient .

In fact, psychological counseling has strict professional ethics , Need to maintain a neutral attitude , Instead of blindly empathizing with patients , Identify and support what they think .

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The role of psychological counseling

The truth 1： Psychological counseling is not good at solving specific problems in reality

I have also had unpleasant psychological counseling experience . Last year I was in sugar Psychology *KnowYourself Made an appointment for psychological consultation on the platform of . After consulting, my biggest feeling is depression and helplessness , I feel that I have spent hundreds of dollars in vain , Spend an hour wasting words with a stranger who doesn't know anything .
Looking back , I think this is because my understanding of psychological counseling is not in place , My problem should not have been solved by a psychologist , On the other hand, the price I offered may not be high , The matched psychological counselor may be undertrained , Not professional enough to respond flexibly to the needs of my more strict and tricky visitor .

According to Zhu Zhixian 《 A dictionary of Psychology 》 The definition ：“ Psychological counseling with mild 、 It belongs to functional psychological disorders ”—— That is, psychological counselors can only help the caller solve their psychological problems （ know 、 love 、 The disorder of waiting ） And behavioral problems or physical symptoms caused by psychological problems , It can't solve the specific problems in the life of the caller .

Then this experience reminds us to put our mind right before starting a psychological consultation ： If you encounter some specific problems in career planning and emotional confusion at this stage , I think it would be better to pay for consultation with zozhihu or to find experienced predecessors in life .

Although some existing platforms will label the areas where psychologists are good at , For example, career planning 、 Intimacy , But we can't be fooled by the profit means of businesses , Build your own clear judgment ：“ What is my core appeal ？ Is it suitable for me to do psychological counseling ？”

The truth 2： The role of psychological counselors is to accompany each client to dissolve the inner darkness

Many times, visitors come to consult a psychologist , Largely because they fell into a long-term black mood .

For example, it produces permanent irritability 、 Uncontrollable anxiety or diffuse depression . Usually, patients cannot accurately detect or admit these emotions , And chose to escape or suppress , So that they may have some physical symptoms , Let these black emotions affect your normal life .

At this time, psychological counselors are needed to help visitors clear the backlog of years of negative emotions .

The consultant accompanies the client to reflect on some of his irrational thoughts ： For example, a patient with bipolar disorder who has repeatedly encountered difficulties in finding a job , She has some extreme ideas that are either black or white ：“ Why can others work normally, but I am overwhelmed by workplace pressure every time ？ As a bipolar patient, I don't deserve to live in this world ？”

This idea is very different from the confusion of career planning mentioned above , On the one hand, this idea is not caused by a specific problem , Job hunting is just a fuse , Behind it lies a deeper problem of self cognition , This is a result of the patient's thinking about the first half of his life experience .

This situation requires a psychologist to accompany the client to detect and change . And we should also realize , It's not that everything will be all right after consulting a psychologist .

just as 《 Mr. toad went to see a psychologist 》 The third chapter of , In more cases, the initiative to change is in our own hands . At the same time, we should realize that psychological counselors have digested so many painful emotions with clients , Therefore, we should respect and understand the work of psychological counselors .

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